Barriers
I've noticed (and been told) over the years that people, specifically friends of mine, put up barriers. Some people completely shut themselves off to emotion; some are only guarded in certain ways; some pretend to be comfortable about certain things; still others are completely outgoing, but you'd never know why they almost overact their 'personality quirks' about specific topics.Everyone has gone through emotional pain, whether it be teasing by peers, manipulation by previous boyfriends/girlfriends, ridiculed repeatedly by a teacher, being taken advantage of by someone, abused by a trusted adult... the list goes on and on. I appreciate when people open up to me and break down a barrier, because I think letting the pain out, not putting up a barrier, is one way to cope with emotional pain.
I don't tell other people things that have been told to me in confidence. Pretty much all that my friends know about each other through me are hilarious stories, and sometimes problems that we have. For instance, I have two friends that I know of who were attacked by dogs as kids. I'm not going to go around telling everyone who they are, mostly because one has dealt with the problem and the other still gets slight anxiety attacks around certain dogs. Some people are jerks and use that kind of info against others.
I guess I think more people should be open because I'm practically an open book. I didn't used to be that way, but I learned that holding it all in is much more damaging than just letting it out. I'm not going to go around telling my whole life story. You just start reading the series whenever you get interested... some people just get more interested and start reading the previous installments. :)
1 Comments:
I think barriers and walls are something taught often in our culture. Too be honest and true, to be real.. would be too much effort, or at least too much commitment. I believe that a lot of the thing we hide behind masks and facades to keep ourselves from getting hurt and to make life manageable. But these barriers serve no purpose but to stunt growth and to implode problems. If more were open and willing to hide the walls that in themselves distort our souls, the world would be a more caring, peaceful, and enjoyable place. But those without the walls often fall victim to those around them. Blocked out from all around and themselves walled from the world as they find little else in the land of truth but the scattered isolated. It is good then to be honest and to be true, but I believe it is so hard to do.
And FTR I don't know if by any means I would call you an open book.... Maybe an easy read, at least as far as emotions, but the book you hold, though with many pages, only the back cover synopsis shows.
-Brian
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